The Shocking Reason Why People Irritate You

"The world is a great mirror. It reflects back to you what you are." - Thomas Dreier   Have you ever wanted to have a crucial conversation with someone who pissed you off in almost every social interaction?  Were you dying to tell them how they were wrong, and that they needed to change?   Why did I have such an issue with this person and how could they so easily "press my buttons"?   The answer to this question can be traced back 13 years ago.   In 2003, I accepted a temporary lecturing position at the University of Alberta.
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Can’t Get Off The Hamster Wheel – Read This

Have you ever felt like you are on a hamster wheel and can’t get off it?   You thought you’ve stepped off, moved on and changed yet you still feel like nothing really has?   The thing is unless you are the guy who was on my flight from Toronto to Lisbon shoving his carry-on luggage in the overhead bin the SAME WAY over and over again. I have no doubt you have evolved in some way.   The question - for better or for worse? Being an optimist, I’ll assume you evolved for the better. After all, that’s what
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When To Draw The Line

‘If you ever find yourself in the wrong story, Leave.”- Mo Willems   When you are hustling for the wrong reasons. When you lose yourself in trying to be liked by everyone else When you find yourself busting your ass for people who don’t appreciate you. When you are fixated on controlling the outcome and it is doing more harm than good for you. Keeping you up at night. Worrying. Stressing.   Stop the struggle.   Release your expectations.   Let it Go.   Let your desire for relief be more important for now than achieving what it is you
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Get Back to the Basics Or You Will Cheat Yourself Of This

“Progress is not achieved by luck or accident, but by working on yourself daily.” - Epictetus   Recently I signed up for ballet barre classes wanting to try out this new studio I discovered close by my neighborhood. As I completed my registration, the lady who was signing people in for classes looked at me and asked, have you ever done ballet?   I said no, but I’ve taken a few ballet barre yoga classes with plié and stuff.   And she said, you may want to try the Barre 101 class being offered to get your feet wet. The
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6 Questions You Need To Ask Yourself Before Saying Yes

Do you find yourself saying yes when you want to say no?   You know how YES just pops out of your mouth automatically because you are so use to saying yes to people all the time? Even when your mind is screaming quick Say NO, make up an excuse.   That was me! Ironically my first word in life was NO. And funny how quickly as a child we learn in order to be likeable, yes was the right thing to say.   This conditioning follows you into adulthood and soon you find yourself not being able to put yourself
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The A Game

Recently I read a book called The Art of Possibilities: Transforming Personal and Professional Life by Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander.   In it the authors shared some of the practices they’ve used to create and live in a world of possibilities.   One of which is “Giving an A”.   The concept behind “Giving an A”   In the book, Ben Zander who is a music teacher shares how at the start of each semester he tells his students they will all get an ‘A’ grade at the end of the term.   One requirement.   Each student
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Why Playing Games Is Important In Your Life

How well you play the game of life comes down to the sum of your choices. Whatever you decide, don’t be the chess piece, be the chess player. - Unknown   When was the last time you played a game?   And by game I mean the fun kind, where it brings out the child inside of you to come out and play as you engage in some friendly competition, bonding with those involved.   As a kid, my friends and I would often play make believe or make up random games before video games were introduced in the 80s.  
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How to Maintain Inner Peace During the Work Day

Do you find yourself feeling stressed and overwhelmed at work?   Does it feel like every time you clear something off your plate, something else pops up that need your attention? It can sometimes feel like a never-ending cycle non?   You then slump around for most of the day unable to focus. Looking for peace, looking for some relief but even this requires effort.   To attain peace, the first step is to make a deliberate decision to choose you want it.   Remember uncontrollable circumstances can affect our mental state, but we don’t have to let it control
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Feeling Down? 52 Inspiring Quotes to Get Out of Your Slump

“The ability to be in the present moment is a major component of mental wellness.” ~Abraham Maslow   Thanks to Eckhart Tolle and his introduction to The Power of Now, one of the most important lesson I have learned is to always be aware of my thoughts.   This is what ‘being in the now’ means. It means being an observer of your thoughts. Rather than let your thoughts control you.   It’s to not get caught up with your mind chatter. Especially the ones that are making you feel bad or causing you to feel stress or anxious because
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Want to Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself? Here’s How.

(5 minutes read)  Have you had those days where nothing seems to be going right? You know the ones where everything just seems to be going wrong? And you just can’t wait for the day to be over?   I had one of these the other day. (Yes, I’m not immune to life’s emotional roller coaster ride.) I was super sensitive to everything that was going on and was feeling sorry for myself for all the things that weren’t going as I expected.   As much as I’d like to blame it on my hormones for being whacked because of jetlag
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