A Nifty Experiment to Generate Romantic Love
We all yearn for love and connection in our lives, especially when it comes to romantic love. Recently having interviewed Mark Groves, who is a relationship mentor, and asking him what is a communication practice every couple can do more of to create a trusting and loving relationship, he shared with me an article to check out in NY Times, “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This.” In this article, author Mandy Len Catron shares with us her story of experimenting with a study done by psychologist Arthur Aron who looked at whether intimacy and a deep connection can be fast tracked between two strangers through a series of 36 deep personal questions, followed by 4 minutes of intense eye gazing. For anyone who is interested to open yourself to vulnerability and connect with your partner or a potential love interest who is open to connect at a deeper level with the chance of falling in love, click here to access the 36 questions. Now, what is a practice you can do with your partner to create a more loving and conscious partnership? Mark suggests checking in with your partner to see on a scale of 1 -10 what kind of boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, partner was I this week? And what made it a ____? Yes, this can be an edgy question, as it can open up some uncomfortable conversations. However, the purpose of this exercise is to allow you and your partner to speak candidly and honestly about something that may have bothered you earlier in the week, so that any issues or misunderstandings can be cleared and resolved. Now prior to engaging in this type of conversation, I would suggest for you and your loved one to work out some additional ground rules in which you both agree upon to create a safe space to talk openly. Some examples could be to keep an open-mind, to listen and stay silent until the other person finishes talking, to stick with facts, feelings and fair requests. The beauty of this exercise is it alleviates the need for you to be a mind reader and it allows you to get feedback from those who are important to you in a safe, supportive and understanding environment. It encourages you to express what’s on your mind so that you can grow together and help each other show up to be a better version of yourself and for each other.